Aku, Cinta dan Cita-cita

Salam everyone :)

 

Sedar x sedar rupanye da 2 sem mira msuk kelas counseling skills. Org mst fkr bdk2 yg msuk counseling mst bdk yg bmslh. Tp korg xtaw, byk sgt ilmu dlm counseling ni yg ble bantu dlm daily life kte. Especially for future lawyers sekalian. Based on my experiences during LAP, skills dlm counseling mmg sgt perlu dipraktikkn. Juz wanna share, ms LAP aritu mira wt kt firm yg wt psl criminal law. It was very3 extremely fun! (hehe hiperbola sungguh kn :p) 

-Ms hearing kt court, mira blaja cmane lawyers ni persuade judge. Ade yg pandai gle persuade, even just melalui intonasi bile bckp dgn judge tu. Sgt meyakinkn even sbnrnye dye putar belit je ayat yg dicakap oleh opponent dye :p

-Ms client dtg firm nk hire lawyer, microskills in counseling mmg digunapakai. How lawyer nk attend client, how to question client, how to confront client, etc. Skills ni sume digune utk dptkn info psl kejadian 2 sedetail yg mgkn. Sbb bile kte xtaw pe sbnrnye yg tjadi, mane la taw client tu kelentong kte je kn, nnt xpsl2 dlm court sume jd tunggang langgang. As if kte xprepare lgsg utk kes tu. X psl2 judge ade bad impression kt kte plak. Nk2 klw kte br nk start career kte, mmg cnfrm la org x endah lgsg psl kte sbb xde pape yg meyakinkn client pn yg kte akn bantu dye. Ha ble nmpk x? :D

-Ms further ‘soalsiasat’ client kte yg kt penjara plak, skills counseling kne ade jgk. For example, utk kes bunuh yg mira follow supervisor mira wt, client ktorg ni ms kt high court da acquitted. Tp bile PP appeal ke Court of Appeal, ttb judge convict dye.Xpsl2 kne la msuk lokap. Mslh dgn client ktorg ni, dye cte x abes kt lawyer dye ms kt HC tu. So bile ktorg ambk kes dye utk CoA ni, byk plak yg ktorg dpt info tmbhn. Smpai ktorg pn keliru sape btul sape slh. Klw based on facts kes n mayat tu, mmg ble nmpk yg client ktorg x slh. Tp xde alibi. So pe nk kne wt? Cmane nk tlg mamat ni? Tpaksa la soalsiasat smule saksi2 yg dirasekn useful utk tlg dye. N nk dijadikn cte, ade satu saksi yg mengaku sbnrnye mmg client ktorg x slh. Ha ni la gunenye counseling skills utk korek rahsia :p Tp kesudahan kes ni mira xtaw plak sbb last mira g firm tu kes ni still on trial. Skrg mgkn da setle, nnt cuti mira g jmp supervisor mira tu lg utk tny hehee ^.^

Ok enough psl 2. Sbnrnye nk cte yg br2 ni I went to meet a counselor. Bkn la ade prob pn, tp sj nk settlekn asgmnt yg diberi. Ms sesi counseling tu counselor ni bckp psl ‘Aku, Cinta dan Cita2’.

Katanye, before kte pergi ke ‘cinta’ n ‘cita2’ tu, the most important thing is kte kne tentukn ‘aku’ tu ape dlu. Cmane nk tentukn ‘aku’ tu…? Haa ‘aku’ kt cni merujuk kpd pe yg kte nk dlm hidup ni sbnrnye. Pe aim kte in life? Pe yg kte nk capai? Pe kte nk jd in future? Org cmane yg kte nk jd psgn kte? Pe ciri2 yg perlu ade pd dye? Kbykn remaja zaman skrg x fkr sume tu tp dyorg terus langkau ke ‘cinta’. Bile da couple br nk fkr cmane ciri2 psgn yg kamu nk. Pastu kononnye cm psgn kamu tu la sbnrnye pe ciri2 yg dicari. Btul ke? Yakin kamu x slh…? 

Sory to say but I dun think it is the right thing to do. Of course rmai org ade around kamu. Mane satu yg kamu rase seswai dgn kamu? Klw kamu kate dye pilihan kamu, pilihan kamu mgkn slh. Sbb kamu xtaw pe kamu nk sbnrnye. Cuba bygkn. If kamu da tentukn psgn cmane yg kamu nk, kamu xkn cnfuse n wt random decision. Lets say cthnye, kamu nk psgn yg pegangan agamanye kukuh. Bile kamu didatangi psgn yg pegangan agamanye goyah, kn sng kamu nk tolak. Xde la kamu kononnye menerima si dia seadanya, xpe klw x beragama sgt pn, yg pntg kamu suke sifat dye yg len. Amboiii…redha nmpk. Mula2 mgkn xpe lg, tp ade kamu fkr akan dtg cmane? Dye mgkn berubah. Ms tu mula la nk mnyesal, mula nk cr alasan yg kononnye si dia x menepati ciri2 yg kamu nk. Dlu x fkr plak? Maen rembat je mane yg muncul depan mata. Ish3x….

Bile da taw ‘aku’ tu pe sbnrnye, then br move on to ‘cinta’. Utk ‘cinta’ ni, kte kne consider plak utk pe kte bcinta? Perlu ke cinta ni? Klw ade cinta ni cmane? Klw xde cmane? Affect diri kte ke? Pe advantages nye? Pe disadvantages nye? Make a list then. Yg pntg skali, ‘cinta’ tu utk dibawa ke jinjang pelamin ke or juz to fulfill emptiness? Haaaa… Sbb tgk kwn2 ade psgn, jd kamu pn mst ade? Kwn2 yg ade psgn tu mgkn pndai balancing their life, know what they want, know how to handle the relationship, tp kamu…? Btul ke kamu mampu balance cm org len tu? Perlu diingt, styap org len2. Mgkn org len ade psgn tp x affect dyorg pny routine. Tp wtpe kamu nk ikut org tp kamu sndri taw kamu x mampu melalui sume tu? Perlu ke mnyusahkn diri n merisikokn future kamu semata2 nk same dgn org len? Haa renung2kn…..

So last stage, bile da taw ‘aku’, da taw ‘cinta’, lets move on to ‘cita-cita’. Pe yg kamu nk jd in future? Ble ke ‘aku’ n ‘cinta’ ni bantu memudahkn lg kamu capai ‘cita2’…? Kamu da taw pe yg kamu nk dlm hdup. Kamu da taw utk pe kamu b’cinta’. ‘Cinta’ ni ble mdorong kamu ke arah cita2 kamu ke..? ‘Cinta’ yg baek adalah cinta yg mampu mbawa seribu kebaekn pd diri kte. Klw sbb cnta studies kte terabai, klw sbb cinta kte rase serabut, tension n smpai nk giv up studies, elokkah cinta tu utk kte? Tepuk dada tny la selera msg2. Bg org berada yg x mementingkn pelajaran sbb dyorg byk dwet n ble hdup dgn harta kekayaan fmly je, mgkn xpe x abes blaja. Dyorg ble survive keje dlm fmly business even without proper studies. Tp bear in mind, jgn biasakn diri mcm tu. Usaha pntg utk kte appreciate sumtin tu. ‘Cita2’ utk mjamin future kte. Kte xtaw selame mane kte akn kekal dgn ‘cinta’ tu. What if he/she dumped u? U hav no work, u hav no income, u hav nothing. Yes, of course its good to predict sumtin good but we should think of the risks too. Ingt kte hny merancang tp Allah yg tentukn sgala2nye…..

In short, kenali ‘aku’ dlu sblm melangkah ke arah ‘cinta’ n ‘cita2’. As for myself, mmg mira praktikkn bnde ni. Mira tentukn dlu pe yg mira nk dlm life ni. Mira cr psgn yg ade ciri2 yg mira da tetapkn je. N mira tgh b’usaha utk abeskn studies utk capai cita2 mira. N of course yg plg pntg mira make sure yg ‘aku’ n ‘cinta’ ni ble bantu support ‘cita2’ mira n xkn pnh giv up utk mdorong mira ke arah yg lebih baek. Smoga sgalenye bjln lncar dlm hdup kte sume. Amiin~

Sekian, wslm :)